Relationship Enhancement Coaching
Contrary to popular belief, relationships are not made in heaven and being in love does not make the reality of doing laundry go away. Self knowledge and personal responsibility are two vitally important factors that contribute to healthy and happy relationships.
Coaching in this area will involve the comparison of each person's strengths, weaknesses and needs. Once two people understand these factors, first about themselves then about their partner, it is amazing how the quality of the relationship improves. Some of the many factors dealt with when coaching within a relationship will include:
Communication styles: Clear communication is the single most important factor in any relationship. Different ways of handling differences of opinion need to be understood. How are the extended families to be involved? What are the roles given to siblings or friends? Will this be an open marriage?
Money management: Which person can handle money the easiest, and that doesn't mean spend it the fastest. Who will be financially responsible for what and how will they meet that commitment? What savings programs can be instituted? How much spending money does each person require?
Employment: Can two people live and work together? Whose career is the most important? What if careers are equally important?
Physical needs: This will include everything from dealing with libidos to doing exercises. Each person has their unique needs and it helps if their partners understand what these needs are.
Spiritual needs: How will each person's spiritual or religious needs be acknowledged? Are either partners religious and if so, do they follow the same religion? What if one person is spiritual and the other is religious? Which festivals or holidays will be acknowledged and how will the other person be expected to participate? What if they choose not to participate? How important would a particular philosophy be if the couple had children? Which path would the child be encouraged to follow?
Hobbies and Shared Interests: How many interests can be shared and what can each person do on their own? The importance and necessity of alone time will be explored based on the needs of each person involved.
Preparation to separate: This may sound very negative yet that is not so. Statistics show marriage is no longer likely to be a life time commitment. Even though everyone starts out thinking their marriage will last forever reality is showing that things happen and marriages end. A lot of planning goes into starting a marriage and just as much planning needs to go into the ending of a marriage.
Why would this be so important?
When people are first together and still in love, they are willing to be fair to each other, they want to support each other therefore there is usually a willingness on the part of each person to do what is best for the other one. This is the time to make decisions regarding the separation of assets. This simple step ensures each party knows what to expect and eliminates some of the surprises that can arise when feelings have been hurt and anger is high. It also impresses on each person the importance of working toward balance and harmony within their relationship.
Parenting issues: Who will take the first maternity leave? Will someone stay home and for how long? Who is going to be the primary care-giver? Can parenting be shared? When is it necessary to stand back and let the other person take over?
Pets: Is anyone allergic to pets? If pets will be allowed, how are they to be treated?
Holidays and Leisure Time: Who will do what in the yard or the house? How can the normal demands of living be evenly divided?
CONTACT ME:
Where? I'm based in Bowser, on Vancouver Island, British Columbia, Canada, and serving North America
Phone: 1 (250) 757 - 9498
International Phone: 1 (250) 757 - 9498
Email: phyllis@phyllischubb.com